“Hold Off, Is It a Date?”: A brand new Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

This is
“Hold Off, Is It A Night Out Together”
the podcast about queer relationship you never realized you always required, hosted by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast came to be away from Drew and that I’s mutual love of vocals memos and strong talks about dating. We have been giving one another sound memos for only over per year today, going deep regarding the things Drew really likes about internet dating (men and women! enjoyable! flirting!) additionally the situations I detest about dating (men and women! Fun! Flirting!). We were having an enjoyable experience, innovative, and informative talks and honestly, it seemed impolite to deny the more community of them!

Consider us since your friendly neighbor hood co-hosts, leading you through very particular queer dating conundrums because seriously, right dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how can you flirt via IG stories? How do you take long, drawn out flirting one step further? What does it mean to think everyone is into you? We are going to speak to the Autostraddle’s greatest article authors, play some super particular games, report on our pop culture crushes of the moment and undoubtedly, just be sure to respond to the endless concern your times:

Wait…is this a date???

Hear the teaser below and whet your appetite, then smash that “subscribe” key wherever okay podcasts tend to be distributed, thus ensuring you an enjoyable August 11th, once the basic recognized occurrence falls!

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And I’m Christina. Referring to

Wait, So Is This a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast that’s aimed at the question, “Wait, so is this a date?”

Drew:

I’m therefore excited to discover.

Theme track plays

Christina:

Yeah. I believe we have been on a trip discover preciselywhat are times and preciselywhat are perhaps not times, as buddies, as well as as a people, I think.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we inform those queers and lesbians just what our whole indealment is, like that which we’re as much as within minute?

Drew:

Like who we’re?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I could go very first. I am Drew Gregory. I’m a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, the web site. I really do some film and TV criticism, and sex and matchmaking writing, and private essays, and items that integrate all those situations. I am trans and I am a lesbian, and I also feel i will include a third thing because everything is in threes. Just what more? What else?

Christina:

Situations perform carry on threes. You really have fantastic tresses.

Drew:

Oh, thank you.

Christina:

You’ve got incredible tresses, In my opinion which is important.

Drew:

Those tend to be my m4m personals identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great tresses.

Christina:

Those tend to be your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I usually mentioned that you may be a female of hair experience. I have always mentioned that about you.

Drew:

Yeah. This really is important.

Christina:

Yeah. I’m Christina Tucker. I will be in addition a writer at Autostraddle, whenever you accept it, just who produces about… oh, let’s merely state whatever comes to mind. Which is actually the ambiance. Also a lesbian. I’m Ebony. I am not sure exactly who more i will be.

Drew:

You will also have great locks.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, What i’m saying is, i do believe this is certainly maybe a podcast of hair experience. Perhaps that needs to be our very own tagline, “a podcast of locks experience.” I assume the folks are most likely wanting to know how we reached this podcast particularly.

Drew:

Yes. And like every great thing in daily life — and by that i am talking about, really, very few — it started as a highdea, as something which we sent you in a sound memo, large. And going back beyond that, we began sending vocals memos to one another in the very beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am just planning tell you like thoughts that You will find, and after that you may go after that and answer me personally, perhaps not react to me, whatever. I am similar to, this really is me personally getting immediate and obvious. Okay. I am some one who… Everyone loves discussing matchmaking. It really is among my personal main subjects of dialogue. I have now stated my piece.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thank you for stating your piece. Also, six moments and 54 moments. Truthfully, somewhat impressive to get that call at that amount of time. We hardly ever really contemplate online dating. In my opinion, possibly, an opposite feeling of your want to think of matchmaking and mention internet dating and, like, end up being matchmaking. I think those are my personal ideas. Well, I’m giving a Drew-level vocals memo, a Drew-length voice memo today. I will send this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I’m sure that you don’t remember dating, most certainly not everything myself, perhaps under someone else I understand?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I do believe about matchmaking less than almost anyone I also know. I don’t know. I seriously don’t know if I’ve satisfied anyone who willn’t remember matchmaking as far as I carry out or in so far as I you should not, i suppose.

Drew:

We failed to really know one another. We were peers at Autostraddle, but also for folks that simply don’t know, Autostraddle is actually an online work place. Its a lot more of a Slack situation than a, everyone appear to like lesbian headquarters together with briefcases. That isn’t truly the ambiance. We did not actually know one another. And then, the beginning of pandemic, there clearly was some DM sliding and a few relationship building several vocals memoing. Therefore would constantly joke that it was like we had a podcast because we might send these long sound memos. Immediately after which when I was stoned, I became love, “We in fact should.” And here the audience is.

Christina:

Yeah. I realize everything suggest by high some ideas not always becoming top tactics, but i really do have a tremendously obvious recollection of hearing you say that and being like, “Yeah, of course we should have a podcast. The audience is performing for every single some other. Have you thought to invite other people in it?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Normally my large some ideas are things like, “Oh my personal God, there ought to be a TV tv show known as

Get A Hold Of Your Star Dual,

in which you just take a hollywood right after which they fulfill a person who — like a haphazard individual that has actually their unique very same birth data. That also, is among my personal high ideas that In my opinion might possibly be great. It’s like…

Christina:

Yeah, firstly, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew:

Which is a totally free one. I don’t care.

Christina:

No, it’s not. Drew, i am obtaining you money, i will become your money supervisor for that. Absolutely not.

Drew:

I recently need to see this stuff worldwide. Generally, this is certainly a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. Plus one reason exactly why it is that topic, as opposed to numerous other stuff Christina and I also mention, is mainly because i really like dating and Christina will not love online dating and that is a great small.

Christina:

Less of a fan.

Drew:

And conflict is actually… this is where crisis occurs. I believe Socrates mentioned that.

Christina:

Positively.

Drew:

This is exactly why that is the subject. We are going to include all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We will mention the most readily useful queer internet dating conundrums, online dating via Instagram.

Drew, in sound clip from potential event:

Correct myself easily’m incorrect, but i do believe Instagram is the best queer internet dating software.

Shelli, in sound video from potential occurrence:

1000 %. It is the best.

Christina, in sound video from future episode:

I heard this off their queers.

Shelli, in audio video from future occurrence:

Definitely. It gives you actually everything you need, except if another person’s personal. But even although you’re private, infant, I’ll know about you, some kind of means.

Drew, in audio video from potential event:

We are going to mention the best gender we have ever had.

Dani, in sound video from potential event:

Right after which I finally questioned like, “No, do you stepped on here to own intercourse? Are we gonna make love?” As well as happened to be like, “Yeah, that’s what I wanted.” Also it was actually like, the cat therefore the puppy had been when you look at the area there had been cat-and-dog locks every-where. And I also ended up being like, absolutely having an allergic effect while we had been making love. The orgasm ended up being, like, cook’s hug. It absolutely was an ideal knowledge.

Drew, in audio clip from potential occurrence:

Wow.

Christina, in sound clip from potential event:

We ponder if it is something concerning the hives that basically added. Like a tiny bit ‘jenesequa’ to this orgasm experience. It was like, “Ooh, i am slightly itchy also.” We wonder how much that elements. We are speaking about just how to breakup with individuals.

Ro, in audio video from potential episode:

It feels as though a really directly culture thing, also.

Christina, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio video from potential episode:

No less than if you ask me, I believe like… My right friends are the ones that are more prone to state, “Well, screw see your face. See your face sucks,” easily end a relationship with some one. While, queer people in living are the ones who’re more prone to maintain friendships with exes or at least see the exes in a holistic means.

Christina, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Whatever you could contemplate in an online dating podcast, and that I’m perhaps not planning to lie for your requirements folks, additionally a lot more. Over you could ever think about.

Drew, in audio video from future occurrence:

If you are sexting via text, is it like what you would like them… Are you performing role-plays of a situation, like “you’re holding myself at this time” or “I wish you used to be pressing,” just what tense tend to be we in?

Kayla, in sound clip from future event:

Yeah, I became going to ask the same question, actually, for the reason that it’s a thing that’s always fascinating if you ask me, specially because we all have been people, also.

Christina, in audio clip from future event:

I became gonna say, a small grouping of authors fancy, “What tense are we operating?”

Kayla, in audio video from future occurrence:

Viewpoint.

Christina, in sound clip from future event:

It’s an in depth next, what exactly is taking place here?

Kayla, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Like, strictly second?

Drew:

Here’s the thing about queer individuals. Let me make it clear.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. Welcome to your TED Talk. Let’s go off.

Drew:

We’ve so many experiences as they are a lot more fascinating. Just whenever I consider the method in which directly people explore matchmaking, it’s thus monotonous. And that I think so often, queer dating talks are extensions regarding the popular internet dating discussion, but adding things such as “coming out” and “first time you’re with a blah, blah, blah.” It really is like — there’s so much more nuance in so many more… It is very exciting. Just what a world that it’s, queer intercourse and queer dating.

Christina:

We’ve used such as the very traditional type monotonous framework of heterosexual relationship and really delivered it into another world, filled with extended conversations and processing our very own thoughts. It really is incredible work.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m actually excited and that I wish all to you are thrilled, because our very first episode comes out each week from today after which, there’ll be new attacks every Wednesday.

Christina:

It has been 1 week before you’ll hear all of our podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you will not only get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you’ll get

Wait, Is This A Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I also co-host both, when you dislike me personally, i suppose you’re not playing Autostraddle podcasts. And if you are doing like me, you are pleasant.

Christina:

Additionally, unless you like Drew, develop, is really what i must state.

Drew:

I am not for all of us, I am okay with that. I believe it should be best that you never be for everybody.

Christina:

Sure. In my opinion that’s completely reasonable. And maybe an interest we’re able to talk about on a single of our potential episodes. What the results are if you are maybe not for all? We adored that We moved like, “Ooh, let us get this all-inclusive.” What takes place once you, we, as men and women. You stated, let’s perform a whole event pertaining to, “What if I am not for everybody?”

Drew:

Well, its Leo period and that I’m a Leo climbing and I also decided making it about myself personally. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. Thanks a lot greatly.

Drew:

We’re dual Leo risings on this podcast, and that is section of exactly why it’s going to be brilliant. You’ll be able to hear us anywhere you hear the podcast. It’s going to be a pretty common podcast scenario. Nothing fancy, no riddles needed to be resolved to get the event, it will likely be there for your needs.

Christina:

Not the employer people. There are several possibilities, perform what you will really.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you’ll find us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you can e-mail us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you can find me on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my title in our tight.

Christina:

You will find checked your own social networking addresses many times and I never, until this time, discovered it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Really that is the thing, Drew ended up being used and I also don’t know how… Oh, I found myself internet dating some body that truly… in fact this person just who I dated, I didn’t get much of that relationship, except we said this notion and she believed it had been thus amusing, like too amusing, in all honesty, like a portion of the issue, i do believe perhaps. And I also was actually motivated to do it, right after which it’s simply trapped.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Sometimes men and women believe i am an aesthetic artist and also you understand what, I love to end up being thought of in that way, but i cannot, Really don’t genuinely have drawing skills.

Christina:

I will say there is nothing regarding brand name for Drew than becoming similar, “Oh, which is your own Twitter handle.” Therefore getting want, “in fact, it really is a funny story about internet dating.”

Drew:

Certainly, just.

Christina:

Perfect.

Drew:

Preciselywhat are individual manages, and they are they linked to the passionate life?

Christina:

Merely, no. You can find me at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the web site. Just in case you wish to get a hold of me on Instagram, can be done therefore, at @christina_gracet. And it’s really actually daring of me to know my personal Instagram handle.

Drew:

Wonderful work.

Christina:

Cheers much.

Drew:

It’s always a joy to talk to both you and i am therefore excited to dive into most of these exciting subjects. And our very own listeners to get at know us somewhat better and obtain to… In my opinion we can all, I think we are all planning to find out about journey.

Christina:

I am hoping therefore. We signed up for discovering.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a college length of podcasts. That managed to get appear to be an absolute bummer. Thus sorry.

Drew:

I am not sure. I’d some fantastic college classes.

Christina:

Clearly, I did too, but Really Don’t want to make anyone—

Drew:

Can you picture how incredible it will be any time you showed up your school course and either of us was the professor, or we trained a class collectively, that’d function as hottest thing previously. Folks could well be like…

Christina:

Hottest ticket around. Enrollment is from the chart.

Drew:

Oh, we ought to have an event that’s aimed at hot teachers. That isn’t related.

Christina:

That is not perhaps not relevant. I’ll say that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I feel like there may be — you have to make it slightly wider, but you never know? That knows what will be in the future, and that’s actually interesting. And also you understand that will understand? You, listener, whenever you tune in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You stay tuned and you crucially hit that old subscribe option and you may spend time with our team every Wednesday and ask yourself, “What is a romantic date?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That gives myself to… I’m not sure. I became only wondering… ended up being this a night out together?

Christina:

Drew, no. This might be a podcast trailer.

Drew:

Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe i am obtaining hang from it while know what’s great, is the fact that because I asked, today i understand, and now in direct communication is really just what it’s about.

Christina:

Asked and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

Plus one that many people in the area could learn. Thereforeare going to, hopefully, this is really a service. This will be less of a podcast and of a political act.

Christina:

Wow. I found myselfn’t alert to that, but i am thrilled to find out that we’re having both a podcast and a political work. A couple of the best things. Two of my favorite items to focus on P, podcasts and governmental acts.

Theme tune performs.

Christina, in a voice memo:

I think my personal instinct is when I really like a person and I want them within my existence, i am aware the very best way in my situation to ensure that they’re in my own every day life is to make them a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I’m simply very happy that we’ve come to be these types of close friends. Assuming regarding quarantine, that is what occurred, we made this phenomenal new buddy, exactly who Everyone loves dearly and that I’m only delighted to talk to you usually, like exactly what a present.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I experienced a thought and it went out. It had been honestly most likely truly brilliant.